A Woman's Heart

A Woman’s Heart

9/18/19

How many times have men asked the way to a woman’s heart?  It is a path that continues to be a mystery to many and a claim for a few.  This should come as no surprise because most of the time we look for her heart in the incorrect places which plant a dangerous foundation for everyone involved.  A relationship based on false pretenses shall lead to complete division and disaster, but it was never intended to be such a terrible process and task.  Men, we have failed in such seeking for our eyes have been turned to the physical aspects of the female species, the incorrect pretenses which lead to improper oneness.  God gave us the woman as an equal partner, as a helpmate, one to help us with True equality and perfection.  We have blown it from the beginning after the fall of man, even after God told us how we should act.  We still have a small window of opportunity to live in peace and tranquility with our helpmates, but if we do not figure this loss out now I fear all hope is lost for unity that we were Created to live under.

As one may tell from the introduction paragraph this will not be a pleasant message to the men who read these words, but take heed men there is still an opportunity to teach our hearts the truth about a woman’s heart and also a greater opportunity to teach the young men who are coming of age within the next few years.  It is not really any breaking news headlines that the relationships between man and woman have broken down ever since the Garden of Eden dissolution and it is not real hard to understand that this brokenness has only widened and deepened as time has advanced too.  The major issue today is that man has voluntarily given up the authority God gave him to restore the equality that was stolen from Adam and Eve when sin entered into our lives.  We are stuck with the consequences of such loss and have not listened to the Word of God concerning such methods of restoration, we would rather argue about how things are and accept the outcomes and wasted time trying to mend fences instead of building a single family as one.  It cannot be denied that if unity, trust, truth, and honor do not reside within an intimate relationship there cannot be any solid foundation to rely upon when times become difficult.  In fact, these types of relationships cannot even determine or sense when difficult times are present much less when they are approaching.

Max Lucado put it best when he stated:  “A woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him just to find her.”  There is no better advice that can be given to a man and a woman if they want to have a loving, fruitful, and long-lasting marriage together.  Bonnie and I have tried our best to instill this principle into our girls and while their paths have drawn rocky roads at time they continue to fall back on the graces of God as their foundation for relationships.  Some of them have been tough to see through and hard lessons have been met and dealt with, but through each one, our girls have inched up the growth chart in God.  But for the majority of the marriages not only in this nation but many other nations as well, the success stories in God are not there, they are missing due to the physical and contractual idiosyncrasies that humans along with the world have portrayed as acceptable and must be encountered as a normal process.  What these types of unions and relationships (humans actually) fail to recognize is that through these failed attempts at unity and oneness we are actually fulfilling a single verse in the Bible, one that has been talked about for as long as I can remember but never heeded to or understood properly.

We have talked about this verse in past articles and have even discussed in detail about a single word that is used in this verse as well, it may not have been directed stated from this verse in those past articles but everyone has implied this verse’s meaning and this verse continues to rear its ugliness today.  The verse in reference for this article is Genesis 3:15 and it goes like this: And I will put enmity between thee and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel.”  Now, I am not bashing anyone over this verse at all, for I must say that I fit into the lost category when it comes to this verse as well, but God wants us to know something about what is really going on in our lives and what the source of our inequality with the opposite sex really is.  The important word in this verse comes right at the beginning of the verse and it is the word “enmity”.  The Hebrew word for enmity is “weebah” and it literally means hatred.  The modern definition for this word is a state or feeling of being actively opposed or hostile to someone or something.  How much of this type of scenarios do we hear about every day?  It does not matter if these instances are on a personal level or a national level, they cross our hearts every day.

This word enmity is a word that defines choice and how our lives have an understanding of how to act, whether or not to allow enmity to shine in our lives or not.  We are going to keep this topic of hearts on the personal level and demonstrate just how important it is to have our hearts buried deep within God in order to keep such a devastating word from entering into our relationships.  It is a head-scratching picture that we see here in Genesis 3:15 for it is God who says that He initiates this action but when we understand that this process has to be introduced as a way of living due to the gift of free will, it no longer confuses.  There are a bunch of issues and conditions that occurred from the time mid-Genesis 2 was being lived out from the time Genesis 3 arrived.  The manner in which Adam spoke of the woman in mid-Genesis is not how he referred to her in Genesis 3 and his initial pursuit pattern should have remained solid through God all throughout the time frame of these two chapters.  It was a huge deal when God brought the woman to Adam and by his own words he knew this; no enmity present at all.

How many of us men out there prayed for a wonderful and godly wife?  How many of us men out there prayed for a gorgeous and sexy wife?  Anyone of you had the decency to pray for both of those qualities?  Of course, we do not start out with divisional thoughts and concepts about our new spouse, and when the truth is told we should never have such thoughts that promote disaster when it comes to our spouses but when a marriage is started out with death remarks upon it enmity cannot help but flourish even from day one.  Do we recognize that if we do not start out our intimate relationships in the manner of Genesis 2 our relationship with our spouse is doomed?  What an awesome truth about relationships for it is so easy to obtain when we are so focused on being the perfect husband for the woman we chose to keep forever.  Unless we as men begin to pray and seek God concerning our ladies, enmity shall continue to be birthed and exceedingly grow within our societies.  This responsibility of knowing our wife rests on our hearts men, not anyone else.

One of the more common mistakes we face is the fact that when God is addressing a subject we tend to leave out some of the players involved in the setting.  There are times where God is addressing a single person and then there are times that He is speaking to everyone that is in play.  Genesis chapter 3 we have three major beings that are involved in this chapter and all three of them are present when the chapter begins and when the judgment for sinful behavior is directed.  Adam heard what God said to Satan in verse 15 of this chapter and he should have figured out the entire meaning of the gravity to which God was speaking, but just as he missed God’s words to him in verse 16, we are now faced with a widened gap that only the cross of Christ can connect.  Adam has no excuse for not understanding what the new line of inquiry would be, nor did he have any excuse of knowing the patterns that Satan would try in order to trick the future inhabitants into deeper sin as well.  God is a complete God and when He gives a command to a human that command stays intact until every human is gone from the face of the earth, there are no partial commands from God.

Plus, both Adam and Eve should have realized just how important it is to keep God first in our existence and that ugly things result when we do.  However, once again we see that their selfishness and lazy attitude toward what really was occurring around them cost them the beauty and perfection that God had created.  Ironically, it was through the abundance of living that God provided that was used against them in the Garden of Eden and if we are honest, the gifts of life today that God provides fall into the same lineage and category for our lives today.  Enmity may have been stated for the first time in verse 15 but the beginnings of such spiritual law was already in place by the time Genesis 3:1 rolled around.  To be brutally honest, the law of enmity does not stop on the individual level it affects all levels of life and if not squelched quickly shall grow into a national or worldly divisional state that may not be applicable for repair.

I find it no surprise that the largest message that people have today concerns unity and equality yet at the same time this quest for equality resides with a skewed and flawed recognition of gender.  If two genders cannot agree upon the truth concerning our existence what makes us believe that so-called added genders and other considerations can get the job done.  Stop and think about this for a moment, bringing more baggage on a trip does not reduce the amount of area that one needs when the destination arrives, it only causes more issues and less space to work with.  If male and female do not function as one unit as God intended there is no way possible that any unity can be confirmed or established and if the personal level of equality is not obtained then there sure is not going to be any equality developed on any other level.  It is not the responsibility of the female to seek God in order know the heart of the male, it is the responsibility of the woman to hide her heart in her father and for the male to seek her heart through this channel.  This is why the saying of Max Lucado is so dead-on because while the status of the physical relationships is so up in the air these days we need to have a steady and pure source for our understanding of each other.  If these conditions and seeking methods are not followed properly, then the only thing left is disunity and separation due to enmity that will result.

Have you ever wondered why divorce is now a generational source?  This single verse and its lack of understanding is the direct reason why the term generational divorce is used.  If we apply the truth and the understanding of Genesis 3:15 to our lives, men, our relationships shall transform right before our eyes.  Even if you have entered into an intimate relationship without these covenants principles at first God is willing to change your entire lives together when you seek His Ways for your marriage.  We cannot help but see the parallel results of our spiritual condition with God and our physical relationships with others for they are almost one and the same, an immaculate parallel status.  While this topic is set on the male and the female’s relationship with each other it serves as a foundation of how we should seek the answers to our other issues in life as well.  Have we done this at all?  I cannot believe that it is because when one looks at the hourly news feeds from the civilizations we have established God is never mentioned as the source of healing a relationship, on any level.

Once this prophetic verse had been played out there was no stopping it from becoming a household venture unless God was continued as the chosen leader of our lives for whoever or whatever we place first in our hearts will be the determining factor in the lives we lead.  There is always the choice of living for the world and if we choose this path then we shall live out the realities of Genesis 3:15 on all levels of life.  The basic foundation of our relationship with God is marriage and it is vital for everyone to know how to live together as one unit all the time and as each gavel of the divorce court slams down we cannot ignore the fact that we have not followed God in this effort.  If we do not apply this verse in its complete manner to our lives then we shall never fully understand the meaning of the next verse of Genesis 3:16, and from what is so evident today we have no clue about its content either. 

The meaning of this verse does not just end with the men’s side of the words, it has a basis for the women as well.  In order to seek God for answers concerning the life and wife we want to have she must also be hidden within God’s heart as well.  She must be totally dependent upon God and His Trust in order to find that special someone to take care of her properly, according to God and His Standards.  It is becoming more difficult to find such a lady that actually desires to be and committed to purity, both in the physical state and in the spiritual state as well.  If one is present then God shall connect the two in His appropriate time, not yours.  There is no reason why anyone should be subjected intimately to a Jezebel spirit but today it seems like it is the “thing to do and to have.”  Once again, this inflammation of scenery strictly comes from the lack of responsibility from the male for he has his heart in other settings, goals, and temperaments when it comes to the female.  Look at all of the sexual deviances that are present around the world today, there is an origin to such issues and it comes from the male not understanding Genesis 3:15 and subsequent verse of human responsibility.  All of these examples and countless others that can be described all come from the lack of the man seeking God first not only in the area of his personal and intimate life but also for Holy discipline and direction from God.

When one looks at the state of the Church today while understanding the concepts of Genesis 3:15, it poses a scary picture of any type of correction to the pattern that is set before us.  For the last few decades or so, it seems like the attention of the Church’s heart has been turned and sharpened to pleasing the world instead of being the representative of the Light that Jesus commanded us to be.  Any deviation from the Truth of the Word of God is an ignorant belief on our part, plain and simple and when this deviance comes from the pulpits it cannot help but present an eternal death scale that will escalate proportionately to the reflection of what lies within our hearts.  Men, it is vital that we understand our responsibilities when it comes to being leaders. By NO means are we supposed to subject women to idiotic and violent settings, but we are supposed to seek God to learn how to live with those who we love and desire, according to His Divine Created Order.  Church, we are no longer providing such fine leaders any longer, we are world friendly and loving the congressional representations that the world offers.  No longer are we the opposite standard which opposes the world and all of the filth it brings; instead, we heretically bring the people who are damaged and love the world into our church buildings and then allow them to spread the filth of the world around to others instead of teaching them that Jesus CHANGES them.  It is a reciprocal pattern when the men do not step up and fulfill their responsibility within their personal actions concerning the women, thus the Church cannot take up her rightful position within the confines of the world either.

It will become obvious when men once again begin to seek God for the answers concerning our own hearts.  The attitudes of men will change and they will represent a different kind of man that wants to love and not lust.  In response to this change, many angered individuals shall rise up and proclaim their entitlement to what we (men) have voluntarily given up.  This process shall not be an easy process but one that explains just how engrained sin is within our lives, societies, and total existences.  But it is a necessary process in order for true and ordained healing to occur not only to our land but to our spiritual land as well.  Are we teaching this basic warfare tactic Church?  Do we even know what this warfare is all about and one must ask, do we even know that there is a war ongoing for our lives?  This attitude states that we have no clue as to what is going on around us; neither do we care to either for burying our hearts in the sand seems like the easier path to take.  Men, we have got to stand up correctly and according to the Word of God for the women of the world.  All of the “isms” that one can think of shall not bring us any closer together but divide us until our eyes and hearts cannot even communicate any longer.  Let us change men, return to God and I can guarantee that those who are hurting and willing to listen to unbiased Truth will once again be closely intimate to us again.

DLB